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  1. Anonymous
    February 20, 2010

    I come from a similar background. If you need proof in the pudding, I am a fourth generation polo player with an Ivy League diploma. I am, I would presume, just a smidgen older than your children. Your blog has amused me greatly. I hate to be the bearer of bad news as I wish it were not so. We are dying. Correction, our kind is dead and decaying. We do not look out for one another and we readily abandon our heritage to assume that of another. We have lost our cultural soul to "modern" ways. While I appreciate your blog as a window into the last recesses our heritage, our day in the sun is over. I hope you instill these values in your children, to pass them onto your grandchildren because Heaven knows this is no longer the way the world works and they will not learn it out there.

  2. Another Anonymous
    February 5, 2011

    I too came from a similar background. My father was a Princeton alumnus who had the exact pedigree you described: went to the right school, had the money, and even managed to attend during the difficult days of the depression. My mother is a Smithie.

    From there, I was raised in the “nicest” neighborhood, in the “most elite” suburb of NYC. But, something changed and the idea of attending an ivy wasn’t a given. Our day in the sun was over, as noted above. Perhaps the reality to maintain that lifestyle was too hard for my parents when alcohol consumed their life, as it did my father’s. Over the past 50 years, I have seen this same town grow and expand and it doesn’t feel like the swanky town it was once was when I wore child-sized rose colored glasses.

    The idea of who gets into and who goes to an ivy league school has changed too. My kids didn’t make the ivy cut, since grandparents’ degrees carry no weight in the admissions process, and they aren’t a proud member of an URM. No, instead of relying on their legacy, they had to forge their own path, since neither I nor my husband went to an ivy. Luckily, they are far more prepared and appreciative of how to make something of their life, starting from their top-10 college, than I ever was.

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