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  1. Dani @ Weddings Fresh
    April 22, 2009

    i just had a brief conversation with a lady about this very subject. i am thinking about chopping my hair off and going blonder. and she responded by pointing out i will never be able to have long hair again at her age so i might as well wear it when i can. she isn’t that old, in fact i wouldn’t call her old at all but apparently she wishes she would have taken advantage of her “torrent” in her younger years :) i don’t know, i think i’m still going to cut it…

  2. Lady C
    April 22, 2009

    what a lovely thoughtful post.

  3. east side bride
    April 22, 2009

    I just chopped three inches off and I’m having a little trouble adjusting (understatement). In a misguided attempt to make me feel better, my husband said, “Well, as you get older, your hair will get shorter…” TEARS.

  4. Sharpiegirl
    April 23, 2009

    I am struggling with the hair too. It’s having a second youth I think. Ever since they bumped my thyroid dose up a few months ago it has been growing back in thicker and shinier and yup more obstinate. The Fiancé LOVES long hair on women but my hair just doesn’t do that very well. It’s too fine, too frizzy, gets damaged too easily by hair color and heat. I’ve tried to grow it into a style that would work for me and maybe a little bit longer than usual for him but I am about ready to shave it off at this point! It’s in a constant ponytail which is REALLY attractive…NOT! Maybe after the wedding next weekend I’ll have a couple more inches cut off.

  5. midlifeslices
    April 23, 2009

    I have hair issues too. I’ve had long hair so long and finally cut it last year and I’ve hated it ever since. Now I’m back to growing it long and if I have to clip it up or pull it back in a pony tail the rest of my life, that’s probably what I’ll do. I just can’t stand that “fixed” look.

  6. Anonymous
    May 7, 2009

    having very thick very curly hair with about 30% grey at age 43 I can say I really don’t want to cut my hair short the weight of the length keeps my hair from looking so bushy. Also I am not ready to stop coloring, don’t know if I ever will be. Also my mother who died young after a lengthy battle with illness had no hair for the last 5 yrs of her life and I made a pact that I would grow mine for a year in memory of herr, she was with me the day I got my hair cut the last time and she died the following day. So far I really am loving my hair being longer and it is easier to take care of for my type of hair.

  7. LPC
    May 7, 2009

    Having hair with significance is even better.

  8. andy
    May 23, 2009

    I like that, LPC.

    I finally cut mine — and let the color go to it’s natural white. So I cut it shorter yet, because if you’re going to have white hair, it better be the WOW kind of short, and I’ve finally got that. WOW short, and no I mean no fussing around with it.

    They call it a pixie cut now, as though “they” invented the word. I laugh; I remember Jean Seberg with a charming “gamine” and thought “Someday, yes, someday, I’m going to do that.”

    I miss my long hair, only because my youth is attached to it, in memory.

    But the white hair is different in texture, in weight, and looks down right “significant” in this short cut.

    AND–when it’s short-short some unhinged hairstylist can’t manage to get a curling iron into it, to make it “old lady.” And I’m out of that chair faster than the speed of light when I see her reach for that hair spray, because I don’t want it, don’t need it, and won’t have it.

    Age has its privileges.

  9. LPC
    May 23, 2009

    I ‘m going all Annie Lennox the next time I get it cut. Platinum blonde is close to white, don’t you think?

  10. Anonymous
    June 16, 2009

    I'm not buying any of this. My wife is a year older than you, 53, and she wears hair past her waist. Now, 11 years ago she was growing out a terrible spiked pixie cut after a mad chopper exercised "artistic" license. Frankly, her hair did not really look good again for the first year of her growing out process.
    The problem that women have is that they surrender the growth process too soon. Naturally, you have too many layers in your shoulder length hair for it to look as superb as it did a decade ago before your fateful shearing. The top takes time to catch up. But when it does, you'll be happy you persevered.
    Honestly, the best beauty advice I could give 95% of women over 40 is to eschew the hair cropping. Even those who look good short, like Carly Fiorina (whom I met last year), would improve dramatically with long locks. I've seen women in their 60's, 70's and 80's who look radiant, elegant and beautiful with long hair. Since YOU love tresses, there is no reason to go throughout life depriving yourself of such a wonderful and powerful accessory. Good luck, Pennsylvania Dude Ron

  11. LPC
    June 17, 2009

    I'm still growing my hair in June. We will see what the rest of 2009 brings.

  12. Anonymous
    June 17, 2009

    Very cool!! Hang in there, LPC. There are many professional styles for long hair. All it takes is a pretty clip, and voila! PDR

  13. Lindy
    July 28, 2009

    Despite what Ron says, long hair on older women is tricky. I have a well put-together friend who uses the expression "high school hair" to decribe women whose hair is inappropriate for their age.

  14. gilly
    October 23, 2009

    My friends tell me to get my hair cut in the bob style I had for so long,but now it is sholder length. I know if I get it cut I will regret it, so please stop me.I am 70 years old and want to keep it for me…

  15. LPC
    October 23, 2009

    Oh by the time I am 70 I hope to have my hair either 3/4 inch and dead white or long and in a braid:). Keep your hair…

  16. e.m.
    January 6, 2010

    What a beautiful post. I am a new reader and now I am hooked.

  17. Anonymous
    September 17, 2010

    I'm also 70 years old with platinum blonde hair cut in a buzz cut. Am still a funky gal & love it.

  18. LPC
    September 18, 2010

    Anon – I hope some day to get to where you are.

  19. Flo
    November 6, 2010

    I'm on an LPC binge today. Did you read Dominique Browning's NYT piece on middle age ladies with long hair? Here it is:

    http://www.nytimes.com/2010/10/24/fashion/24Mirror.html?scp=1&sq=dominique%20browning&st=cse

    GROW THAT HAIR!!

  20. Tricia
    October 29, 2015

    I wished men understood that not all women have hair that is thick and strong to wear long forever or at all. After menopause and an Rx I lost a lot of my already thin, baby fine wavy hair. I’m 69 but look 55. My gray is dingy mousy brownish gray. I am off the Rx and hoping to see improvement in 6 mos. in the meantime I cut it in an edgy pixie and it is strawberry blonde to go with my green eyes and peach skin. I am petite with an oval face so I can pull off this look. Would I like to have long hair?? Absolutely but it is not an option. And I am not ready for rogaine. Luckily my 50 yr old BF loves my style, no matter if it’s a med bob or super short. Luckily he doesn’ t worship at the long hair altar. My advice to anyone over 50 is just be you. If you can wear it long, do it. If you like your gray, keep it. If you love your color, keep doing it. You don’t become OLD because you hit a certain age, you become old because you believe all the BS you hear in the media and so called friends.

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