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  1. the communicatrix
    May 15, 2009

    Ah, the tent on the grounds. We had those at a couple of weddings, aspirational high WASPs that we were.

    I’m sure we did it wrong, but I do remember floral centerpieces as decoration, and that’s about it.

    “High WASP” also works for “wedding on a budget.”

  2. The Cape House
    May 15, 2009

    Love that tent by the water. Can’t stand the droopy sparkly tree creations.

  3. Bride in Exile
    May 15, 2009

    This just inspired me to read every post tagged with “high WASP.” I love your take on WASP aesthetics! My family is more low-to-middle WASP (my grandmother was a high WASP who ran away with an unemployed WWII vet she met in Boston — they just celebrated their 60th anniversary!), but my fiance’s family is definitely high WASP. Funny, loving, warm and accepting high WASP, but I do feel like I’ve gained some insight here :-)

  4. Hannah
    May 15, 2009

    I do so like the idea that “High WASP aesthetics are a way to make sure you don’t do something wrong” I concur.

  5. accordionsandlace
    May 16, 2009

    This is so complicated!

  6. Academic, Hopeful
    May 16, 2009

    Just came across your blog. What a natural sociologist you are! I love it. I also love thinking about how tastes correlate to social groups. I would say to social class, but class is a far more contestable category these days. Look forward to reading more.

    ps. And yes, there is the Australian version of this. My friend’s wedding was recently touted as best wedding because it was so “understated” and “tasteful”, but the location, food and flourishes were, of course, completely contrived.

  7. {The Perfect Palette}
    May 16, 2009

    love those pink flowers~

  8. indigo doll
    May 16, 2009

    oh my gosh. i just had flowers delivered .i haven’t seen my boyfriend in about a month and apparently him sending flowers makes that okay.

    anyway. he sent carnations and gerberas. so i’m going to lean into them whilst looking at your last two posted pictures, and then maybe- maybe- things will be a bit more alright then.

  9. LPC
    May 16, 2009

    It is complicated. Like I said, please feel free to completely ignore it. I think it’s even more complicated to think about what conditions sending flowers makes OK or not…

    I would love to see the Australian version of all this.

  10. teaorwine
    May 16, 2009

    As I look at these long tables, tented, the important thing is to feed every invitee that has accepted the invitation.

  11. LPC
    May 16, 2009

    Food is critical. It would be terribly rude not to feed people, I agree. And, Bride in Exile, I might be biased, but I believe my High WASP family is warm and loving and accepting. On the occasions that we aren’t it’s because we are in bad moods and can’t help ourselves…

  12. Bride in Exile
    May 17, 2009

    LPC, re-reading my comment, I realized how it must have come across! What I was trying to say, in a rather muddled way, was that my fiance’s family has been nothing but wonderful, but that little differences pop up from time to time, and reading your posts on High WASPism helped give me some insight into the way their family does things.

  13. LPC
    May 18, 2009

    Bride. No problem whatsoever but thank you for the gracious restatement.

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