26 responses

  1. Buckeroomama
    June 21, 2010

    I so enjoyed this post. Thank you, Reggie Darling (may I call you that?). :)

  2. High Heeled Life
    June 21, 2010

    It is amazing how far "society" has come! What took it so long? I feel one of life's lessons is to learn to love and to be able to accept love. People should find a way to be happy for those who have found it (as you and Boy Darling-have)- perhaps it is that you are surrounded by more happy in thier own life, positve,forward, selfless thinking people.

    As for Granny Darling – she would understand that the good Lord gives us what we need not what we "think" we want. And she would love Boy Darling, because she loved you – and he makes you happy and loves you too!!!

    I really enjoyed your writing and will be visiting your corner of BlogLand!! HHL

  3. QueenBeeSwain
    June 21, 2010

    why didn't they teach us history like this!



  4. Maureen@IslandRoar
    June 21, 2010

    What a fun post!
    Love the irony that you managed to please Granny and yourself at the same time. Guess breaking down some of the old barriers is a very good thing!

  5. The Mrs.
    June 21, 2010

    Great post! Went right over to his blog to follow!

  6. Tabitha
    June 21, 2010

    What a lovely post, does "Boy Darling have an ageing portrait in the attic?
    Here's to Vassar boys!

  7. Belle de Ville
    June 21, 2010

    What a wonderful post about your family, Yale, Vassar and Boy.
    Now I will head over to your blog to read about Lisa's Princeton reunion.

  8. Patsy
    June 21, 2010

    I love this post X a million. My favorite things in life are the happy curve balls we're thrown.

    I remember when there was nothing finer than unlimited cokes and peanuts!

  9. VA Gal
    June 21, 2010

    What a wonderful post! And so interesting to see how attitudes have changed in a relatively brief span of history. I come from a family where the men went to school down south, but several of the women all went to Vassar. I grew up hearing Vassar stories as a child, and have always been very curious about the place even though I ended up going elsewhere for college.

    Now I must head over to your blog to follow!

  10. DocP
    June 21, 2010

    Just had my 30th Reunion at a different Ivy. I'm always of two minds about reunions. I live about a mile from campus, so there are 51 better weekends a year to visit. It is nice to see classmates and their spouses/children. On the other hand, I have kept in touch with college friends. A friend set up his own "reunion" weekend with friends – they all scheduled a weekend at their alma mater, but not during the "official" weekend. (Better hotel rates, as well.)

  11. Barrie Davenport
    June 21, 2010

    Hi Reggie,
    Loved your post. You've inspired me to write a post on my reunion for Lorine's Beauty College. You can only imagine the stories . . .

    My other reason for commenting is to let you know your post today also appears on The Daily Brainstorm. Hope you and everyone will check it out at http://www.thedailybrainstorm.com.

  12. Barbara
    June 21, 2010

    Reggie Darling,
    You are indeed as gracious a guest as you are a host. Great stories and history of your family.

  13. Beth Dunn
    June 21, 2010

    Love the guest blogs! Always a fun read

  14. Kristen
    June 21, 2010

    Love the guest blog! I have attended many Yale reunions in my bag, amusingly in the same way Reggie did when he was twelve: hanging out with the dining halls workers. Actually, my dad might have been either the manager or one of the bartenders in 1969; he graduated two years before and was working as a manager there already. I will have to ask if he remembers a young boy washing glasses…

  15. Kristen
    June 21, 2010

    Bag, day, whoops!

  16. Reggie Darling
    June 22, 2010

    Dear Lisa and her commenters: I have remedied the mishap that delayed posting Lisa's guest post on my blog. A thousand apologies–it was not intended to be thus. Please do go over to Reggie Darling and read Lisa's charming and thoughtful post on her Princeton 25th reunion. Reggie

  17. LPC
    June 22, 2010

    As ever, the gentleman. Do not worry about the mishap. These things happen. I hope you have enjoyed your travels.

  18. cdclaycomb
    June 22, 2010

    Lovely, lovely post!

    I was unfamiliar with Reggie's blog and will remedy that right now.

  19. Kcecelia
    June 22, 2010

    Wonderful. Moving. So interesting. Very happy Reggie and Boy can be out, and together, at their reunions. May it become a reality everywhere!

  20. Gourmetmom
    June 22, 2010

    What a thoroughly interesting and entertaining account. Thanks for introducing us to Reggie – I'm planning to read his blog right now!

  21. The Zhush
    June 23, 2010

    Wonderful finding Lisa's blog through Reggie, and thoroughly enjoyed this post. How fabulous that Boy attended Vassar, love stories like this. I might add, I am a few years younger than Boy, and literally had NO idea that being gay was ever considered a mental illness! Or if I did ever know this, I promptly forgot it. Maybe one day my children will read about gays not having the right to marry, and think something along the same lines….

  22. Maggie
    June 24, 2010

    Such a good post. I'll forward this on to my husband, weeks out of his 10th Yale reunion. Coming from a scarily long line of Yalies as he does (he dined under portraits of his great-aunt and uncle in college), he's sure to enjoy.

  23. Janel
    June 24, 2010

    Well, I can't decide: do I comment here for Reggie's post, or go to his blog and comment there??? Anyway, what a fantastic story — I certainly didn't see the Vassar-Yale marriage story coming. How wonderful that at last this story is possible. I think your Grandmother would be pleased; I doubt she could resist the charming Reggie/Boy couple. Thank you for sharing this story; it made my day.

  24. Reggie Darling
    June 26, 2010

    Hello Commenters (and LPC):
    Thank you for your comments, and support. I do believe that Granny Darling would have come around to our Yale-Vassar marriage, at least once the shock wore off. She was a lovely and gracious lady, and a very sensible person in such matters I believe. Thank you, Privilege, for giving me the opportunity to share this essay with your readers, it has been an honor to be featured on your site. Reggie

  25. Paula B.
    June 14, 2011

    Loved reading your observations, you write so vividly, I could just imagine the scene at your father’s twenty fifth. I, too, have seen many changes at my alma mater as I had entered college as part of the school’s first coed class,we women were very small in number back in 1972! I still enjoy the sweet memories associated with having been part of that unique experience. And, I am sure your grandmother would have taken much delight in your marriage!

    7:34 am
    Lisa said...

    Paula, I hope you know Reggie’s blog, at www.http://reggiedarling.blogspot.com. He’s fantastic.

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