I’ve been helping my brother and sister-in-law design their wedding. They thank me occasionally, but all I can think, is, they are letting me do this? It’s wildly fun.
She took me to see the space. It boasts triple height ceilings in an Arts and Crafts decor, with standard brown and gold carpet. They wanted a fun, intimate, feeling, with touches of Burning Man. I was seized by a vision of purple and gold tables. White felt too weak, blue too conservative for this couple, red too autumnal for just about anyone.
They also knew they wanted to uplight the walls, in amber, perhaps a leafy pattern. Given the high ceilings, we toyed with the idea of large lanterns hanging above, but eventually found a photo of the space, on Snippet & Ink, with festival lighting strung at standard ceiling height. Perfect.
Oh, and the beautiful bride? Her dress is here. She’s looking to the Burning Man community to replace the flower belt you see with one that’s a little more subversive. Perhaps involving feathers, and picking up the blush pink of her shoes, which are here, in other colors.
My brother’s still thinking about which suit. In all honesty, he’s one of the best-dressed men I’ve ever seen in person. For the wedding, he’ll probably wear a thistle as boutonniere. As do many good Scots. Besides, the thistle is a raggedy flower, prickly with a sweet heart, perfect in the spirit of feathers and deconstruction.
We settled on Studio Choo for the flowers. I follow florists. Yes I do. Down in Southern California, there’s Flowerwild. Out in New York City, the absolutely astonishing Saipua, and her erudite blog, here. And Elizabeth, at The Nouveau Romantics in Austin, who was invaluable in figuring out just what we were doing. You can see her work on her blog too, here.
Studio Choo also contributes to the We Like It Wild feature on design*sponge. When I discovered that I was intimidated, having heard Grace Bonney speak at Lavish!. Good thing we’d already made the choice. Here’s the deciding image.
A good friend of the bride, (I don’t think of her as a bride, really, more as my future sister-in-law) designed the invitations. Her name is Susan Asher. That little icon is a twin-trunked bodhi tree. Brother and future sister-in-law are both interested in the tenets of Mr. Buddha.
I like the colors, and the reference to classic motif stationery. Gold pineapple, pink palm tree, pink/red bodhi tree. So does society evolve.
The other day I was invited to their food tasting. The Bi-Rite Market, a San Francisco institution, is catering. I met my future sister-in-law’s parents, and did my best to make a good showing for our family. We sat in a little office above a Mission District street, eating crostini with fava beans, asparagus in ham with a name, heritage bean salad that tasted faintly of maple syrup. Delicious. Rain poured down outside. A memorable afternoon.
Weddings are so much fun. Planning and organizing one, if you want a large and original party, so much work. These two are putting on a celebration that speaks to who they are. It’s going to be just beautiful. I’m honored to be involved.
And the joy at a dearly beloved brother’s great good fortune in finding this woman, and hers, too, in finding him? Well. Of course. But I suppose all great joys come with that feeling of surprise. As though we have to hide our capacity for that much emotion from our everyday selves or we’d never get anything done. On to candle strategies, escort cards, and hallway arrangements.
Invitations, Susan Asher Designs @ 510.534.7757
Images in inspiration board
Boutonniere via Jena D. Events by Imagewell Photography
Flowers via Studio Choo
The bouquet via Snippet & Ink, by Anna Millett of Mira Aster, photographed by Larissa Cleveland
Purple and Copper Linens via Blue Water Rentals
Belt by FInkelhoo Fashions
Shoe picture by me
Venue via San Francisco’s Presidio., photo by Bruce Forrester
Photo of light strings via Snippet & Ink by Matt Miller for Our Labor of Love
Dress via Vera Wang