Today we are taking a scientific approach. Because we can.
Hypothesis: If you do anything, anything at all, regularly for 4.5 years, you’re going to learn a thing or two. Even at midlife. No matter how obdurately you put your head in the sand.
Proof: A few experiences from writing this blog. (Probably not actually proof, but this is personal not public science)
Solve Lots Of Little Worries For A Big Bang & The Wrong People Always Apologize
1. Solve lots of little worries for a big bang. What I mean is things that bother you, individually trivial yet systemically burdensome, are worth fixing. For example, I’ve been dressing myself for at least 50 years, suffering angst in important social situations all the while. These feelings bubbled below the surface. Didn’t even register as a problem, much less a fixable problem. And then I started writing here. When you write about something you have to think about it. And, turns out, when you think about a problem long and carefully, you can often solve it. Or get pretty close.
The other day I was faced with a tricky situation. As usual, I took a minute to think about what to wear. I felt the lack of worry so palpably it was almost like a thing itself. I needed to consider, sure, but I could name my concerns. And in naming, address them. A whole category of life anxiety gone.
2. The wrong people always apologize. When last Saturday’s post kicked up a small kerfuffle, and I deleted several comments (including my own), some of you emailed to apologize. Guess what. Those who wrote were not the prime offenders. On the other hand, those who had made truly rude or hostile statements remained silent. So if you’re feeling the urge to apologize for something, go ahead. Just realize it’s highly likely you’re not the one at fault.
Perhaps you knew all of the above. You are, after all, a highly intelligent set. So if you’ve figured out anything brilliant, or even just useful, evidently I’m here to learn.