To revisit, briefly, the discussion of wedding dresses.
You all were correct. The Christopher Kane tape dress wasn’t quite right to get married in. It’s cool, beautiful, and fashion-forward. The translucent silk organza is a glorious fabric, and lace appliques and plastic tape as fun as one might expect. But it’s not romantic, and I felt decidedly romantic about marrying.
So I wore it the night before the wedding, at a small rehearsal dinner. No time for cameras, or tripods, or the usual standing on sidewalks with open sky as backdrop. I’d entered the wedding chute, where one says often, happily, “Oh well!”
On my iPhone, from the St. Regis San Francisco, where we stayed the night before and night after the festivities, in an AllSaints biker jacket, old Rolex Cellini, and Louboutin Simple 70s. I think the Louboutin almond toe navigates the current pointy-toe trend with reasonable dignity.
I also finally succumbed to the lure of Vicente Agor’s Ice Shelf earrings, with their optical quartz disks. Dangling, not small, but transparent.
Which I chose from amongst a host of options I brought to the St. Regis, to choose from in the last moment. Because I favor subtle jewelry, of the sort that’s rarely more striking than my clothing, I find I never know just exactly what piece I’m going to want to wear until I’m dressed.
The earrings are made originally in yellow gold. With gray hair I find I need to transition to silver tones, and Vicente was kind enough to do these in white gold as a special request.
The coral drops, by the way, were my bridesmaid present to my daughter. My mother gave them to me ages ago, and they are so much better on a redhead of graceful carriage than on a graying Sturdy Gal.
So to address the headline question, about wearing white to your wedding rehearsal? Well, why not? I have little patience for rules of outdated protocol. Rules of courtesy are another matter.
I say that anyone old enough to change jewelry for graying hair, and pass down coral drops to her tall daughter, can wear white to her rehearsal. In fact, I’m going to extend that permission to everyone. Wear white, except to someone else’s wedding. Wear white in the winter, especially this year. Wear white jeans after Labor Day. And go ahead and wear white the night before you get married because, as it turns out, white dresses are like snowflakes. Each quite different under the lens of occasion.