Category Archives: Entertaining

Thanks And Favorites, Or, Saturday Morning at 10:34am


About that Thanksgiving menu. The Diestel heritage turkey, delicious. A meat thermometer is critical, however, as it cooked much faster than advised. Gravy from roux (half pan drippings, half butter, plus flour) and giblet stock, with chopped turkey liver? Do pour in the glass of wine that the Diestel site recommends. Tasted just like mom […]

Host Gifts For The Male High WASP Style Archetypes


Sometimes, your host is a man. If he’s High WASP or, no matter his background, exhibits telltale similar behaviors, here are a few brief suggestions for gifts on arrival. Arrive at the Master of the Universe’s party with your smart phone to hand. Take your host aside and tell him, if anyone needs a ride […]

7 Pieces For A Non-Rustic Thanksgiving Table: Posh, Or Nosh?


Anyone else out there with a fangirl love for table settings? Oh the crystal, oh the gilt, oh the gleam. While I appreciate rustic Thanksgiving tables – n a hello pretty picture kind of way – my heart belongs to fancy. Or, as the British say so endearingly, “Posh.” Perhaps I have a few allies […]

One New Piece For The Entertaining Holidays: From Sky’s The Limit To, “Hey! I Could Get That!”


As I’ve said before, if I don’t get myself one new piece for the holidays, I’m prone to a certain wistful regret. Celebrations feel just a little more celebratory in new duds. This year, I’m thinking about a new party top. See, I’m almost always the one cooking, if not as the head chef then […]

Tailgating With ALL The Gear


So, the San Francisco Giants are in the World Series. I’m always surprised when this happens, we’re too Alternative to be good at sports, right? Apparently not! This weekend Significant Husband and I went walking out behind the ballpark Do you know how beautiful this city is? Look. A photo posted by Lisa Carnochan (@amidprivilege) on […]

3 Cocktail Party Stories


Cocktail parties are generally imagined as frivolous and sparkly. We assume clinking, drinking, even plinking. But it’s not always so. Doesn’t everyone remember some events as more than a fête, decades down the road? 1. A Christmas Throng At Princeton University, With Mistletoe, Punch, And Football 1975. My sophomore year at Princeton, 3 roommates and […]

The Budget Version Of A Festive Hostess Outfit


I hear you. My picks tend towards the expensive. Let’s fix that. Voilà a version of the outfit I posted Friday, sourced all from Target, Zappos, Dillard’s and other moderate-price retailers. In shifting down the cost curve, you want to follow a few key principles. Stick to one neutral shade, i.e. all gray, all taupe, […]

The Unpredictable Dangers Of Dating Etiquette


One should never ignore the value of good manners. Equal parts simple human courtesy and protocol, manners blunt the sharp edges of social machinery and quiet our squeaks of need. Now, if you don’t understand simple human courtesy, I cannot help you. We do well, however, to discuss both the value and limitations of protocol. […]

Invitations, Then, Now, And Tomorrow, Or, Saturday Morning at 10:02am


  My mom turns 80 this year, and we’ve decided to extend the festivities to a family reunion. I’ve been coordinating the logistics, timing, location, amongst all the cousins. On email, of course. So when the time came to put together an invitation,  I clicked over to the Paperless Post website, browsed their templates, chose […]

Dinner With The Donald. And Some Others.


We’ve all been to at least one good dinner party, right? Define the good, you say? Warm light, shoes off, laughter. Food delicious enough that the conversation stops for a minute. Comfort and joy. The unmistakable thrill of connection and invention. With an open slate, who would you invite? Only people who know how to […]