Category Archives: Fierce at 50

What Would It Take To Wear This Out Of The House?


You may remember I proposed a hypothetical 4th of July outfit, here. Somewhere around 7 o’clock the night of the actual 4th I grabbed my youngest sister, and said, “Oh, hey, would you mind taking a picture for me?” So she did. We were down at my mother’s, in Santa Barbara. All the siblings, the […]

Aging Out Of Shorts, And Into A Long, Navy, MaxMara Dress


This post is sponsored by Halsbrook. Retailer particulière to the Grande Dame in all of us. The photo above, although I didn’t know it at the time, signaled the end of my street shorts days. I’ve aged out. It’s not that I hate my knees, or worry about shocking my neighbors. But, to be blunt, I find the texture of […]

Your Work Clothes May Have Some Fun In Retirement


I used to wear a long white Splendid blouse over black bootleg cords. I used to wear pencil skirts with boots. I used to wear lavender, cadet blue, and dance oxfords together. To work. But this week I took that white blouse, a black pencil skirt and dance loafers out on a spontaneous little outing with my husband. I […]

Why Cut A Long Graying Braid?


By the time I got a haircut, my gray braid had grown down past the middle of my back. I loved the thing, in and of itself. Gray for pride in aging. The format, in my imagination, honored women protecting themselves from work injuries, burns, gears, small children’s maple syrup hands. So I liked what it stood for, but […]

Shop Now For Your Future Retirement, Or, Part B Of The Thoughtful And Stylish Wardrobe


And now, some thoughts on how you might shop today for tomorrow’s retirement. Working, I used a fair amount of my salary to buy stuff for stress relief. I think one is allowed indulgence. But with a little forethought, that indulgence becomes investment. What’s Gone? Over the last 20 months since I stopped working I’ve gotten rid of a lot of […]

Building A Thoughtful And Stylish Retirement Wardrobe: Part I


I’ve been asked, what about building a retirement wardrobe — while you are still working? Good question. Few people write about the topic; misconceptions abound. Am I the only one who imagines racks of lavender terry jogging suits and puffy white sneakers? I suspect many here hope to enter their later years in style, but also […]

Can I Wear Pants To A Somewhat Elegant Baby Shower?


I don’t know how the rest of you midlifers feel, but I confess that when my children were big but not grown up, every passing pregnant woman surprised me. “What? People are still procreating? Aren’t we done?” I wouldn’t say it to anyone’s face, of course. But one’s own child-rearing is so all-involving, it seems […]

If I Were Stopping By J. Crew Today


We have a J. Crew in my neighborhood, as I imagine do many of you. I find their merchandising displays enchanting. The color mix! But if I were stopping by today, or this weekend, I’d try these on. I’ve been sending the universe requests for 100% cotton non-dowdy khakis for donkey’s years; maybe these are […]

Do You Wear All Black Because Your Courage Fails You?


Do you find yourself wearing an awful lot of black? And do you find yourself apologizing, if only to yourself, for your choices? Does an all-black outfit, we might ask, reek of defeat? No I say, no! Like anything we do, as long as we reveal our intent, it’s an act of courage. You just […]

Extreme Casual Style For Weekends, Retirement, Stay-At-Home Moms And Anyone, Really


Back in 2013, I wrote a post about putting together a whole new wardrobe from scratch. We talked about how to stratify your closet, allowing you to dress well even when you have to muster all your courage to make the effort, along with some strategies for better days. However, back then I was working, […]