Category Archives: High WASP women

The Original Sturdy Gal Turns 80, Or, Saturday Morning at 10:03

We rolled straight from a lovely, small, simple Thanksgiving into a birthday party for the original, iconic Sturdy Gal. My mother’s younger sister turns 80 this year, and her 3 sons and their wives organized a surprise dinner for her with 65 guests. It was just wonderful. My aunt was toasted and honored, for her […]

What’s A Summer Sale For, Or, That Thing You Didn’t Know You Needed

Summer sales, to my way of thinking, are for finding that one thing you didn’t know you needed. We’re heading into July and in most parts of the USA it’s only going to get hotter. Pieces you’ve relied on are going to give up the ghost. Something new is something crisp. If I weren’t spending […]

Shop Like A Grande Dame, On A Moyenne Dame Budget

Even Reggie Darling admits, if one wants to shop like a Grande Dame, it helps to be an heiress. All right then. How about those of us who work for a living? What of those who want a few Dame-esque pieces, but aren’t the sort to gussy up day in day out? I took a […]

The East Coast Grande Dame, Reggie Darling Style (TM)

In 1960, my father left the East Coast and moved his very young family to Northern California. This meant that I grew up, despite my High WASP heritage, in a world of furze and tie dye. Our family followed the High WASP code of conduct, but we believed it to be our own private, unvoiced […]

An Object Of Desire – The Fisherman’s Sweater

Those of you who follow my Pinterest wanderings may have noted a certain “It” item. Early in the year I began to hear a chant of desire, as one does for these things, “Fisherman’s sweater, fisherman’s sweater, fisherman’s sweater.” A little odd, but apparently I was not alone. Gwyneth has spoken. Via Pinterest and Daily […]

“Game Of Thrones” Meets “2 Broke Girls,” Or, Saturday Morning at 8:34am

I have a new TV show for you. It’s called Orange Is The New Black, a story of women in prison, and you can find it streaming on Netflix. A composite sentence you never expected to read? The show is neither comedy nor soul-searing drama. It’s just a story, based on the memoirs of a woman […]

Exploring Boundaries, Both Artsy And Of Age

Few of us adhere purely to one way of dressing. We’ve all taken multiple directions, from tried and true outfits, to the adventurous, to the best of breed. In my High WASP world, Style Archetypes limit the discoverable area. If this was as Sturdy (Sturdy is kissing cousin to prep) as I get without wearing […]

Do You Embrace Your Heritage Style?

I might have titled this post, As Preppy As I’m Ever Going To Get. We’ve all got some sort of heritage style. Maybe your Grandma had grand panache? Maybe your great-aunt refused to stop wearing hairnets? True story, that one. Pause to reflect and honor the past. In my case, the heritage is straight-up New […]

Dressing Well Without Chanel: Missive 2

Progress has been made, in my campaign to dress well in a semi-retirement/working from home mode. Khakis form a key component of the strategy, as do white shirts. But not just any khakis, and not just any white shirts. You are always quite kind in your requests for more photos. Perhaps to help you deconstruct […]

You Can’t Go Home Again, Or, From Polos To Faux Leather

The family house, 1940 something until late 1990s I was surprised by the guests’ attire at my uncle’s service. To be sure, no one wore anything inappropriate. I was surprised, simply, by my memories and resultant expectations. The event was held at the Hyannis Yacht Club, 3-5pm. No program, only drinks, food, and conversation. I […]