Category Archives: Motherhood

The Best Reason To Retire Is Christmas, Or, Saturday Morning at 9:41am


Here’s how I’m staying sane at Christmas. Made my peace with last-minute-ness. The deadline is Christmas morning, is it not? If you complete non-family jobs in advance of a deadline you miss critical trends. Shouldn’t the same apply to holidays? Called my sisters. Oh, my brother has kept me sane on many occasions, but it’s […]

The Sacred Floor Of Babies, Or, Saturday Morning at 8:31am


Baby nephew, not to mention his parents and doting grandfather, are coming over for a casual lunch today. So casual that we’re just going to pick up Chinese food, (albeit of the authentic sort) and put it on the table with plate, forks, napkins. I suppose I will put out the chopsticks too, and maybe […]

Now Playing: Grown Daughter, Or, Saturday Morning at 9:55am


My daughter is sitting right next to me, typing quickly. She’s wearing flannel pajama bottoms, I’m wearing flannel pajama bottoms, there the resemblance ends. How I gave birth to someone who can memorize anatomical systems, who speaks about “my cadaver,” well, let’s just say that becoming human is a mysterious process. I get such comfort […]

Settling Into Care, Or, Saturday Morning At 10:08am


Both my children moved recently. My daughter out to Southern California for medical school, and my son to a non-hip region of Brooklyn, for his first solo apartment. At one point during the last couple of weeks, I had a brief thought fragment. You know what I mean by fragment, right? Not a complete sentence, […]

A PrescriptIon For A New Student Wardrobe


As I’ve mentioned before, my daughter will soon start medical school in Southern California. She graduated from college in 2009, and has been working for a medical equipment company ever since. At a desk, I should add, not in a lab or production facility. As a result, she’s got a good set of work clothes, […]

What Would The Founding Fathers Think Of DOMA?


We, the people, hold these truths to be self evident. First truth. Last week, as many of you know, the Supreme Court of the United States overruled the Defense of Marriage Act. Outlawing gay marriage at the federal level has been found unconstitutional. Second truth. Today is the Fourth of July, America’s national holiday. Finally, […]

Baby Nights, Or, Saturday Morning at 10:05am


Good morning everyone. I took care of my nephew from 10pm to 7am last night. Well my goodness. All you new moms, I salute you. That’s the little guy above. Don’t worry, he’s well supervised. Turns out that’s his new slumber position of choice. I’m not questioning. Oh how interrupted nights tortured me as a […]

The Style Archetypes Reflect On Mother’s Day Jewels


Beladora asked if I’d write a post on Mother’s Day presents for the Style Archetypes. Although I had just written about Beladora jewelry, I do love a straightforward request, so much easier to negotiate than veiled asks or polite threats. Besides, the Style Archetypes clamored at my window late one night to say, “Do it!” […]

My Son Turns 23, Or, Saturday Morning at 8:06am


Today my son is 23. When your children are born, and young, you aren’t quite sure what’s going to stick. Is this their personality or a phase? I think it’s best to avoid attributing personality for a long time, to give room for their own selves to show up. You, as the adult, don’t want […]

The Various Meanings Of Rock, Or, Saturday Morning at 9:01am


I just finished¬†Elizabeth Strout’s first novel, Amy and Isabelle, Strout also wrote Olive Kitteridge, which won the Pulitzer in 2009. Amy and Isabelle concerns a mother and a daughter. I recommend it highly. Here’s a passage from the final pages. (I will tell you in advance that the book is, in the end, hopeful. These […]