When building up your attractiveness, it’s enormously useful to have a go-to outfit. For many of us, that’s going to mean a pair of jeans, heels, a blazer , and a bag you’re glad to carry.
Notice the flexible parameters.
Almost everyone can find jeans that flatter. Because those sturdy blue trousers have become a cornerstone of American culture, a version can be found for most shapes and sizes. Like boyjeans? Try Madewell. Flared? 7 for all Mankind Dojos are my current favorites. Skinnies? J. Crew or J. Brand or you name it. Same for heels and blazers.. I imagine a chant – stilettoed, blunt-toed, cropped, lapeled. Say it out loud. A stacatto of choices.
How do I know this is a go to outfit for attraction? Very scientific research. First, I cast my mind’s eye back over the years, and realized that whenever I felt the time had come to make my intentions clear to a man, I wore jeans, a white shirt, and pearls. (I note that this is the perspective of a straight woman, and would be interested to hear if there are similar lesbian go-to Attractive outfits.) Second, I reviewed Pinterest. Yep. One of the most prevalent outfits? Jeans, jacket, heels, bag.
Finally, a couple of years ago I wore this to meet young women blogger friends in Manhattan for the first time. Obviously I wished that they find me Attractive.
Of course, some of us just don’t like pants. We don’t like the way they feel, the way they look, or both. How then to choose a go-to? Despite Pinterest’s fondness for shorts and skirts and maxidresses, I don’t think those are the most attractive solutions. I think it’s got to be a dress. One that allows for movement, but highlights your favorite bits.
If you don’t care for pants, it’s quite likely you’re fond of your bosom, as they said in previous centuries. And somehow, with all that leg showing, I think you’re going to want to wear boots. For stomping around. For two feet on the ground. There’s little quite so attractive as an effortless, enthusiastic, authoritative stride.
You will notice, being the insightful lot that you are, a certain Sturdy quality to these outfits. Yes. That’s true. The single most attractive outfit you can own ties directly to your style archetype, whatever that may be. But Sturdies are also quite likely to act as a net plus in your life, i.e., Attractive, so perhaps it’s not only my archetype preferences at play.
You may also notice some androgyny. My theory, until a better one comes along, is that gender testing is dangerous, even today, even now. And those who dare, attract.
Try a little daring. A little stomping. See what transpires.